What Your Spouse Actually Needs When They Reach for You (with Tammy Hill, LMFT)

If your spouse has stopped reaching for you, or if you have stopped noticing when they do, this episode explains exactly what is happening and how to fix it. Bids for connection are the small, everyday moments that hold a marriage together. A wink across the room. A hand on your back. A text that says I am thinking about you. When those bids get ignored long enough, couples stop making them altogether, and resentment fills the space.

In this episode of the Epic Marriage Podcast, Nick and Alex Leyva welcome back marriage and family therapist Tammy Hill for Part 2 of their conversation on playfulness in marriage. Tammy explains how John Gottman's research on bids for connection applies to long-term covenant relationships and why so many couples lose the ability to reach for each other over time.

You will learn why rejected bids lead to emotional distance, how to communicate about the kinds of connection your spouse actually wants, and why learning each other's erogenous zones is some of the best homework you will ever get.

If you want to stop missing the moments that matter most, visit YourEpicMarriage.com for resources created for temple-sealed couples. If this episode helps you, please leave a review so more couples can find it. Your spouse is reaching for you. Learn to reach back.

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